Flirting 101 – Come On, Have Some Fun!

Flirting is a time-honored way of signaling interest and attraction in another person. It’s an essential aspect of human interaction and can be an open portal for intimate relationships between two people.

While most people think of flirting as an overt sexual act, it doesn’t have to be.

It can be a simple, playful, and fun way to connect with those around you, men, women, children, it doesn’t matter – just put a smile on your face and make a friendly connection.

It’s easy!

When you are out in public – in the grocery check-out line, getting a coffee, at the bank, a party, an event, wherever, practicing flirting. The idea is to become aware of the people around you and connect with them.

I know one woman who met her husband in the TSA security line at an airport when she complimented him his watch.

Another woman was having coffee at a kiosk and started chatting with the married man next to her. She eventually married his twin brother.

One man asked a woman in a department store for her opinion of a gift he was buying for his Mom and voila, magic happened.” Try this:

Set an intention to make three people smile. Take a deep breath and open your heart then:

• Make strong eye contact, and ideally look into their left eye, because that’s connected to the attractiveness part of their brain.
• Have a nice smile on your face.
• Have open, friendly, approachable body language
• Touching someone lightly is a form of flirting.
• Making conversation and laughing at their jokes.
• Give them a compliment or ask them a question (even if you know the answer).

“That blue shirt really accentuates your beautiful eyes.”

“Those red sneakers are awesome, where did you get them?”

*With a child, tell them a dumb joke such as “How does a camel hide in the desert?” Camouflage!

*Or if it’s an adult, my favorite joke is “Did you hear about the zoo that only had one dog? It was a Shitzu!”

All of these are forms of flirting. Dating expert Greg Behrendt suggests if you’re at a restaurant and you see someone cute that you are interested in, walk over to them, ask to borrow the ketchup, and after they hand it to you, ask to borrow a French fry!”

While flirting doesn’t come naturally to some people, practicing on lots of people, of all ages, is the fastest way to build some memory muscle. The idea is to be present and playful.

Flirting is a way to be a “Daymaker,” a term coined and spread by my dear friend David Wagner – it means to be a person who performs intentional acts of kindness with the intention of making the world a better place. Doing small things with great love.

I believe flirting defiantly is a form of this so go out there, be bold, be brave, and spread some fairy dust on the world!

Wishing you love, laughter, and magical kisses,

Arielle