Sex With Your Ex: Bad Idea?

Make-up sex. Break up sex. Mercy sex. Drive by sex. It’s easy sex. I just gotta have some sex. It’s better than nothing sex. Friends with benefits sex. Maybe this time it will be different sex.

Sound familiar?

These are just a few of the countless reasons why we might fall into bed with an Ex-lover. Unless a miracle has occurred, and your Ex has suddenly become your perfect right partner, having sex with your Ex is a mistake.

Why?

As soon as you get close enough to smell them, your brain chemistry is triggered, memories come flooding back and you begin to re-attach.

And for women, it’s even worse.

Ladies, when you have sex with an Ex, your brain releases the bonding hormone oxytocin and that could cause you to fall in love with them all over again.

If these aren’t enough good reasons not to do it, here’s the most important one: having sex with your Ex reconnects you to them energetically and it may block your future soulmate from coming in.

I believe that having random, casual sex with your Ex (or anyone else) sends a message to the Universe that you don’t really believe or trust that your soulmate is on the way.

You are not “living as if” when you do this.

As you are “savoring the waiting” of this time before the “One” arrives discover the sensual joys of self-pleasure. Imagine and feel (and yes even fantasize) that you are now physically WITH your soulmate and put your focus on him or her. While you don’t know what they look like you can certainly conjure up what it will feel like to be with them.

Think of it this way, if you had a 100% guarantee that your soulmate was arriving in 72 hours would you be having casual sex with someone else?

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